Q. It is the second wedding for both the bride and groom. Therefore, we are having a small ceremony for immediate family. We want to send announcements out to friends and family. What is the proper etiquette for this?
A. I guess we are talking about sending out wedding announcements and I presume YOU will be sending these out (not mom or dad)??? These go out the day of or after the wedding and, in this turn-of-the-century etiquette, can be as formal or informal as you would like. As serious as you want or as funny as you want. Formally it's the "Ms (or Mrs) YOUR NAME and Mr HIS NAME announce their marriage on DAY OF THE WEEK, the NUMBER of MONTH one thousand nine hundred and ninety-nine at CITY, STATE"