Q. I am keenly sensitive to the separate identity of women and men and find it problematic to refer to the parents of the bride on the wedding invitation as Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. What is the correct form for listing the bride's parents who are making the wedding? Can one say Mr. John and Mrs. Mary Smith, or if not, what do we write?
A. Well, if you plan to print "traditional" invitations - tradition states - you will use "Mr. and Mrs. John T. Public" - BUT - take heart, has more and more weddings become less and less traditional alternatives to traditional invitations are more and more acceptable - therefore - something along these lines IS currently accepted in wedding etiquette circles: We ask that you please join us for the marriage of our daughter HER NAME to Mr.. HIS NAME on Saturday, the tenth of July at five o'clock, 101 Park Place, Anytown, Maine. We invite you to witness their vows and join us for a reception following the ceremony. Jane and John Doe RSVP How's that?