When can a romantic evening and a marriage proposal become more than just the typical "Tea for Two"? When children are part of the package, couples find themselves with much more than just romance on their minds.
There are so many things to consider when planning a marriage and a life of sharing and this list grows very quickly as children are figured into the equation. Many couples today are beginning relationships with each other’s children as the extra challenge. Challenges can be fun and exciting, if time is spent to make good things happen for the new family and the new relationships that result.
From the very beginning of the relationship, dating can include the children. With trips to the zoo, ice-skating rink, fun parks, ballgames, movies and museums, children and adults can learn so much about each other. These activities can provide interaction and begin the understanding that is needed to form healthy, long-lasting family patterns.
When a commitment has been made and the wedding is planned, the children must be included in some way to give them the feeling of importance and belonging. The age of the child definitely determines just how much participation he or she would have in the planning and activities of the wedding. Children can have as small a part as helping pick the reception food, to actually walking down the aisle as one of the wedding party. The important thing is to make sure the children are not left out, since the wedding is a major turning point in their lives.
After the wedding and honeymoon, real life starts for the new family. Be sure to continue the patterns that formed the beginning of this relationship. Keep a night open for family time. Some families have game night, pizza night or movie night. It doesn’t matter what it is called as long all involved look forward to the evening! A little creativity will be rewarded by good family fun that lasts a lifetime. Tea for two, three or more? Sounds like a delightful adventure to share!